If you’re a girl with self-esteem issues, this can be really overwhelming at times, especially when you don’t know ruin things, especially romantic relationships.
When I was in high school, I heard a lot of advice about how you shouldn’t start seriously dating somebody until you were happy with yourself.
My lack of confidence was almost impressive – I hated how shy I was, I hated that I wasn’t smarter, I hated how I treated people sometimes, and even how I spoke.
But the biggest thing I beat myself up over, every single day, was how I looked.
I was seriously dating someone and I wasn’t happy with myself, so I brushed it off and kept doing my thing.
It wasn’t until years after my first boyfriend and I broke up that I realized how much I should have listened to that advice.
Authentic love is attracted by those who desire it and is repelled by those who need it.
If you do not take care of your physical self, your partner can hardly be expected to view your body as a temple.
Another cause lies buried in your early relationship with your parents.
Maybe you felt rejected or dismissed, or struggled to win their approval or recognition.
You may try to pass off your self-perceived weaknesses’ as strengths, but if you modify yourself in an attempt to win someone over or control the opinion they form of you, you are in a sense trying to control or dominate their thoughts and actions.
Such behaviour means you want something from that person, be it their acceptance, attention, respect or approval.